Annie, thank you for your vulnerability. You’re not alone in this feeling at all. I have struggled with this as well, but this is where I allow trauma informed paradigms to help support my radical empathy, even if others don’t have it. I’ve decided my fight against the patriarchy will be through that radical empathy lens, which then allo…
Annie, thank you for your vulnerability. You’re not alone in this feeling at all. I have struggled with this as well, but this is where I allow trauma informed paradigms to help support my radical empathy, even if others don’t have it. I’ve decided my fight against the patriarchy will be through that radical empathy lens, which then allows me to see our harmed brothers as victims too -- not to say so many men aren’t absolutely abusing this-- but the reality is that the average man has been blindly participating in a system that they are unaware is harming them too, even whilst benefiting. When I talk to my man friends about the patriarchy, this paradigm often allows them to be more open to receiving what I’m saying, as attacks often close us off (I’m guilty of this!). bell hooks was absolutely vital for me to approach this topic in such a way, prior to reading her, I was so profoundly frustrated by the ignorance of men perpetuating harms. But honestly, it’s a constant fight of pure frustration which, thankfully, is often humbled by wholesome participation elsewhere. I find writing about the patriarchy this way has been a magnet for the men wanting to show up better, and I’m glad for it. All I can impact is my circle of influence, and this paradigm helps me do so. I’m not sure I answered exactly the question you asked, cause the reality is that it’s the both/and for me. Both frustrating and beneficial. Thanks for spending time with my words, Annie! 💜
Of course, thank you for sharing that, even if it felt funky!! It’s a constant journey for sure but I try to also have it with myself cause I’m only human. Sending love! 💜
Annie, thank you for your vulnerability. You’re not alone in this feeling at all. I have struggled with this as well, but this is where I allow trauma informed paradigms to help support my radical empathy, even if others don’t have it. I’ve decided my fight against the patriarchy will be through that radical empathy lens, which then allows me to see our harmed brothers as victims too -- not to say so many men aren’t absolutely abusing this-- but the reality is that the average man has been blindly participating in a system that they are unaware is harming them too, even whilst benefiting. When I talk to my man friends about the patriarchy, this paradigm often allows them to be more open to receiving what I’m saying, as attacks often close us off (I’m guilty of this!). bell hooks was absolutely vital for me to approach this topic in such a way, prior to reading her, I was so profoundly frustrated by the ignorance of men perpetuating harms. But honestly, it’s a constant fight of pure frustration which, thankfully, is often humbled by wholesome participation elsewhere. I find writing about the patriarchy this way has been a magnet for the men wanting to show up better, and I’m glad for it. All I can impact is my circle of influence, and this paradigm helps me do so. I’m not sure I answered exactly the question you asked, cause the reality is that it’s the both/and for me. Both frustrating and beneficial. Thanks for spending time with my words, Annie! 💜
Of course, thank you for sharing that, even if it felt funky!! It’s a constant journey for sure but I try to also have it with myself cause I’m only human. Sending love! 💜